Why You Shouldn’t Be Scared Of Rejection

Rejection is a terrible word. Rejection is someone else’s evaluation of who you are and your worth. Why would you ever put yourself in a position to be rejected?

The real question is, why would someone else’s opinion of you mean more than your own? Someone may reject you for many reasons, but few (if any) of them are because of who you are. A woman may reject you for being poor, which means she was not that interested in you in the first place. A woman may reject you because of your height, your color, your hair (or lack of), your job, or your car. Does that make you a bad person? No, actually it makes her a bad person.

A woman may reject you because it is her who is scared of intimacy. Maybe you remind her too much of an ex-boyfriend, or maybe she is actually secretly in love with someone else. Who knows why, but it’s not because of you.

So if why are you scared of rejection? Remember the old schoolyard verse, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.” Even as a child you knew to ignore the rejection of others and you need to keep that in mind when dealing with women as an adult.

For every woman who rejects you, there is another one out there who will be rejected by you someday. Who knows, you may have rejected someone today and didn’t even know it. The point is, don’t take rejection personally. Rejection is simply someone else’s evaluation of you and what they think you are.

“Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable.” – Sydney Smith. In other words, you will regret not asking her out, not making an attempt, not trying. That regret will last much longer than the rejection ever will.