How To Read A Woman’s Body Language

Women may seem like a mystery, but in some ways you can actually read them like a book. Body language is a complex set of non-verbal signals that each of us gives out every second of the day. Take a look around you. While sitting on a bus, you will see a variety of body language cues: people taking up a lot of space to dissuade physical contact with others, people avoiding each others’ glances, angry people, sad people, and affectionate couples. Each of these people are giving body language cues to everyone around them.

A woman’s body language is easy to read. The first thing to pay attention to is her “personal space”. Personal space is different in every culture, and certainly between men and women. Some women need a lot of space at the beginning of a relationship, less space later. Some women may be all over you in the beginning, and a distance from you later. You need to evaluate her relationships with others (does she hug her friends, her family?), and how close she comes to you. Follow her lead.

In the language of the body, there are generally two forms: open or shut. Someone who is “open” is welcoming contact or closeness. Their arms are uncrossed, they are leaning toward you, they may touch you to make a point.

Someone who is “closed” is obviously not in the mood for contact. She may have crossed arms, leaning away from you, unwilling to make eye contact, and in many cases will actually move away from you if you move in too close.

Body language is also expressed in the face. A smile is the ultimate symbol of welcoming. If you see a smile, make sure the rest of her body language falls into line. If not, that smile may not be sincere.

However, more important than the body or the face, the hands are the true signal of feelings. A woman who initiates contact, even a light tap on the hand, is in the mood to get to know you. A lingering handshake, or a touch on your lower back or bicep are both considered intimate and good signs. If a woman touches your face or hair, you have won the lottery.

Pay attention to these signs, and you will easily see which women are welcoming you and which aren’t. If the signs you read aren’t good, move along and find someone who is ready to communicate.