How To Appear More Confident In front Of Women

Like most men, your confidence level probably drops in a direct correlation with the beauty of the women you are in front of. The more awesome she is, the less awesome you feel. But not only do you feel bad, women sense lack of confidence and will avoid you like the plague.

So, how do you attain a more confident demeanor in front of women? You can’t do much about your looks or your pocketbook, and unless you win the lottery, you won’t be driving a nicer car anytime soon. What can you do take overcome your shortfalls?

A much overused statement in 12 Step Programs goes like this: “Fake it till you make it.” The best way to appear more confident is to feel more confident, even if you are faking it. It is not that you are pretending to be something you aren’t, simply that you are enhancing your confidence level just a little bit. By pretending to be confident, even a few minutes at a time, your unconscious will soon adopt those feelings as reality.

Another way to appear more confident is to sharpen up your act a little. Who doesn’t walk out of a barber with a little more bounce in their step? And, who doesn’t feel better when wearing new clothes (even if they were bought at the discount store)? By feeling better about yourself, you will appear more confident.

Many people claim that affirmations are the secret to self-confidence. Tell yourself, repeatedly, that you are confident. “I am a confident guy!” Repeat this every day, every night, in the bathroom, at the gym, and you will soon become what you tell yourself you are.

In addition to affirmations, visualizations help everyone from politicians to athletes achieve their goals. In fact, during the Olympics, Michael Phelps visualized every second of his races, from beginning to end, every night before he went to bed. By visualizing them successfully ahead of time, he felt his nerves would be reduced and he would be half-way to success by the time he stood on the blocks.

You can’t buy confidence in a store or learn it from a book. You need to feel it inside you before others will see it. Begin by telling yourself you are confident, seeing yourself as confident, and doing little things that make you feel good – these can raise your confidence level immensely.